Today, I'm talking about LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS, something I've had plenty of experience with!
Long distance relationships or LDR for short is a relationship that is obviously long distance. It could be that you're in the same country but some miles apart or in completely different countries to each other.
Most of my relationships have been long distance relationships, most likely because I'm a shy person so meeting people out in the real world isn't easy for me so that meant the internet was were my relationships started.
THE FIRST LDR.
You might remember from my post about coming out that I developed feelings for a girl, that girl became my first girlfriend and my first long distance relationship. She lived in Wales, while I live two and a half hours away. We were together for about three years altogether, two of which were spent waiting to meet each other. Yup, you read that right. Two years of the relationship was based purely on us talking daily whether it was via text or online, waiting for the day that we could finally meet face to face.
When we finally meet, we were joined by our parents. My dad, who travelled on the train to Wales with me and she was with her mum.. I guess in situations like these and considering our ages, it was best to have some parents around to make sure everything was okay and everyone was who they said they were. Thankfully, that was the case.
Our first meeting led to more meetings, one of which was behind her mums back as she wasn't too happy about our relationship, until eventually we split up.
THE ONES THAT FOLLOWED.
One lead to another, and another.
The relationships that followed were a combination of long distances similar to my first and shorter distances that made things easier. As I got older and was able to travel on my own with the money that I'd earnt, it became easier to visit whoever I was currently with.
MY OPINION ON LDRS.
I feel the most common question relating to LDRs is "do they work?" and depending on who you are and what your experience is, the answer will obviously vary.
My opinion is that they can work but it isn't easy. It's not something that gets easier the longer you're together either. Similar with any other relationship, you grown closer together and your feelings become stronger so the distance becomes harder to deal with but future plans can be made, people move and distances cane become shorter. It can work if you truly want it to, but it isn't for everyone.
If you have any comments or questions, feel free to post them below and I'll reply. Also, check out the links below for guides and tips for LDRs!
MY ADVICE FOR LDRS.
There are somethings I've learnt through my time in long distance relationships and hopefully these little piece of advice will be helpful.
- MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER: This might seem like a silly piece of advice because obviously you will but spending time talking to each other via Skype or over the phone when you can have each others undivided attention is always good.
- SEND EACH OTHER THINGS: This can be anything from photos of yourself, things that remind you of each other and you could even send things via snail mail especially if you live a big distance from each other. Care packages for each other might help get through the harder days.
- COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER: And I'm not talking about daily conversation. If you have any issues or you're having a hard time, talk about it. As previously stated, they can be hard so it's good to be there for each other if one of you is struggling with the distance more than usual. Any small issue can seem worse when you're further apart, so make sure you're open and honest and work through any issues or problems when they arise - don't leave them to get worse.
If you have any comments or questions, leave them below and I'll happily respond. Also check out the links below for advice, tips and activities for long distance relationships!
via HuffingtonPost.com
A website with different activities, advice and inspiration for your LDR.
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